After a long and cold New Jersey winter and the moment I begin to actually see my front lawn, I go to my garage and get my stand-up weeder ready to begin the battle against those annoying dandelions! The stand-up weeder is hands down my favorite tool of all time when it comes to lawn care. You simply locate the dandelion, walk up to it with a silent confidence, line up the bottom part of the tool with the center of any weed, apply pressure downward to show your dominance, and simply twist and pull it out as you scream your favorite battle cry, removing the problem from it's root. The whole process is extremely relaxing, therapeutic, and you see immediately satisfying results. As each weed fills the garbage bag in shock of what just happened and as your green grass glows you begin to realize and appreciate the effectiveness and value this tool has on the entire process.
The whole process made me think about my life and what things are dandelions (stress, self-created problems/thoughts, and external factors) actually preventing me from creating and keeping the best "lawn" in my life! More importantly, what life tool(s)/strategies do I use to attack the problems at it's root? I have accepted that dandelions are a part of life and we can't always prevent/stop them from happening, however we can control what we do when we see them! There must be some systematic approach (just like my step by step on how to use the tool above) that we all should use when we see something eating at our happiness.
Here is my, "Mr. Clark's Life Weeding Strategy Guide!" to help you remove the weeds in your life!
1. Recognize that there is a problem or issue that is getting in your way of your "perfect lawn".
2. Accept and Respect why it's there (it didn't just grow, but either you let it over time or like most things in life... it was out of your control).
3. Learn about the problem you are having so that you can understand how to deal with it and more importantly to know what to do if it comes back (most problems do, so it's important for you to get some muscle memory when it comes to these types of things).
4. Think and Decide about what strategies/tools you have in your life (your strengths) that you can use to best attack the problem (you wouldn't take a chainsaw to a single dandelion, and you wouldn't take a scissor to a tree). Not all problems are the same so they shouldn't be treated that way. Some problems in life are so deeply attached that sometimes we need others to give us strength, power, and support. Know when the job is too big for one person!
5. Get to Work and start creating positive momentum towards overcoming the problem. (Others can help you get started on solving the problem and they can be a really important to the process, however you are the only one that can truly pull it from it's core because it's "your problem...your weed.")
6. Believe in Yourself and Stay Positive as you start and continue the process (some problems/bad habits can be removed quickly and others take more time to remove....See #2) Be patient, visualize the end-product, and celebrate the small victories as they come.
7. Reflect on the entire process and continue to feed/water all aspects of your life (Mental, Physical, Emotional, Social, Spiritual, Work/Financial) so that the fewest dandelions arise. Remembering that they will come no matter what and you can't control that, however you can always control what happens next! What will you do when you see that weed? Will you allow it to grow into a larger cluster, or will you stop it dead in it's tracks?
8. Keep Growing into the amazing person you are destined to be and replace the spots where dandelions once grew with the strongest, most positive, life-filled fibers!
Disclaimer- if the only problem you have are dandelions get yourself a stand up weeder (linked below!)
Signing off to go and work on achieving the "greenest" lawn my life has to offer by overcoming one weed at a time,